Once more I have left it was too long to write one of these things!
So it has been 6 months or so since I last posted. Since then I have come very far with my research project! I am now editing and finishing it off. It has been amazing experience, absolutely fascinating getting to interview people about their experiences of unemployment, and analyse what they say. I can honestly say it’s the most interesting piece of work I have done in my entire life and I will miss it now it’s almost over. I have also found it has given me an insight into why I have felt such a failure for half my life. We are pretty much set up to believe that we need to have our whole lives and careers planned out by the time we are 21 and if you don’t then you are a failure. If this is something constructed in society then surely it is up to us to challenge that and not feel bad about ourselves? My supervisor has been incredibly supportive, and I am happy to have made so many friends and met many new people during my year and a half studying at UEL. This experience will stay with me for the rest of my life.
Outside of university I have been a lot happier too. I definitely feel less anxious, and any stress I do feel is usually manageable. We finally moved into our very own flat a month ago. I can’t describe the relief of not being cramped into a horrible studio-like flat, and having the freedom to do the house up just how we want. It finally feels like we have a home. Work wise, my job is challenging but fun, and I feel happy that I am making a difference in people’s lives. I still have an underlying feeling of dread about the fact that I have no idea what I am going to do from September. I have made it through to the assessment centres of two graduate schemes, which were daunting but great experience. Although I received a rejection from the second, the first I have been put on the waiting list for, but I’m not going to get my hopes up too high. Overall I feel that things could be a lot worse and that I am still doing well even if I stay where I am. I will always get new chances to develop myself and learn new things. I feel taking things as the come is the best thing to do from now on. I’ve learnt so much from the colleagues and friends around me and the different routes they are taking through life.
The trip to Helsinki was pretty awesome. I have wanted to go since I was a teenager so it was great to finally see it. I think I managed to cripple myself walking around the city but it was beautiful. We went to visit the island of Suomenlinna, see all of the main city sights and I got to try elk, squeaky cheese and reindeer. The sea and lakes were frozen (this was March) which was a pretty cool sight to see. I would love to return to Finland, and see Lapland another time.
I am going on holiday in two weeks too, so I am super excited about that. I am just looking forward to spending time somewhere hot and relaxing with great food and drink! If only RyanAir didn’t charge £100 each for baggage! Oh and I also started taking driving lessons. My lessons have gone really well so far and I received a lot of praise after my last lesson as my confidence had improved a lot (and my ability to press gently on the brakes haha). I can’t wait til I am able to drive, wish I had taken lessons sooner!
So that is a quick update on my life and where things stand at the moment. I have decided to set myself some short term goals, because I feel that it helps to motivate!
- Pass my driving test
- Get a distinction for my thesis
- Lose some of my body fat (~not necessarily the same as losing weight – I joined this Facebook fitness coaching group called Rebelfit, and have found it very helpful although I still need to put a lot of it into practice!
- Get back into full-time work.
So there we go 🙂